Red Flag Guide

The things you didn't think much of at the time — but that never quite sat right. One page per signal: what it looks like, how to read it, and what to do.

• He keeps saying I'm overreacting or too sensitive — is it me?
• He never posts me or tells anyone about us — is that normal?
• He says "let's go with the flow" and won't define the relationship — should I wait?
• He's hot and cold — intense one week, gone the next. What does it mean?
• How can I tell if he's seeing someone else?
• He says all his exes are crazy — is that a red flag?
• He came on incredibly strong right away — is this love bombing?
• He always apologizes — sincerely — but nothing ever changes. What does that mean?
• My boyfriend keeps borrowing money — and wants me to invest with him. Red flag?
• He treats me well but he's rude to waiters — does it actually matter?
• He texts other girls flirtatiously and calls me jealous — am I overreacting?
• He says he's changed and wants me back — should I believe him?
• He lies about pointless little things — does it matter?
• He never thinks anything is his fault — is that normal?
• He's never free on holidays and only texts when it suits him — what does that mean?
• He's a different person when he's drunk or when things go badly — should I take it seriously?
• He can do things I'm not allowed to do — is that controlling?

Choosing a tool

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